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What a day!

Post: # 234738Post misty44
Wed Jun 08, 2011 7:12 pm

Having lived with the threat of redundancy for two years I was appointed in a restructure in Jan. Don't have a great line-manager (very lacking in emotional intelligence) and today sat through a meeting with her where she was very critical and then told me we are going into another restructure (which we're not so can only assume ill intent in the comment) and that someone else could have my job by this time next year. (She wanted one of her old team to have the post which I have). Came home, phoned a plumber who did some work for us. We have had huge problems with the work. Response I got was 'tough'. Got into heated debate with his wife on phone and she put the phone down on me (not very emotionally intelligent of me to get into a heated debate), then OH criticises me and says 'you could have handled that better', I would have said....' Told him he can deal with it himself from now on (a few other words were spoken which are probably best not repeated-again not very emotionally intelligent of me) and went for drive round the block.
Yesterday was such a good day...

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Re: What a day!

Post: # 234739Post Arbor
Wed Jun 08, 2011 7:37 pm

What a rotten day :angryfire:

The problem with being an 'emotionally literate' person is that you tend to be hard on yourself whilst being extremely tolerant of other people.

Sounds to me that you behaved in a perfectly understandable way with some very difficult challenges.

Take a deep breath, go outdoors and look at something beautiful and if it will help whilst you are out giving yourself some positive affirmations we can all mutter some expletives on you behalf!

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Re: What a day!

Post: # 234741Post noplasticbags
Wed Jun 08, 2011 8:07 pm

What you need is a quiet space on your own with a nice cup of tea and a decent gardening programme on the i-player (currently watching Beechgrove Garden holding a cup of tea with bedroom door firmly shut - guess I can empathise on your day!). My boss is totally emotionally missing too - usually we find some fun in it, but somedays it just wears you down.

Hoping tomorrow is better

Arbor - just noticed your whereabouts - you are the closest person I've noticed so far - thought W. Mids was missing on here - hello :wave:

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Wed Jun 08, 2011 8:21 pm

:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

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Post: # 234748Post oldjerry
Wed Jun 08, 2011 9:21 pm

But tommorrow is another day! Hope it's better for you..

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Wed Jun 08, 2011 9:58 pm

What a stinker of a day for you, best wishes and understanding from us here :hugish: . I have often wondered about having a place to go that provides you with lots of crockery to smash against a wall......plus goggles and a written disclaimer about causing personal injury etc., etc., but oh, what a good way to vent your anger :iconbiggrin: .
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Post: # 234772Post greenishfingers
Thu Jun 09, 2011 5:43 am

Poor you,it's awful that your line manager can get away with treating you like that. My best antidote to an awful day is to take a flask of very good coffee to my allotment,sit and listen to the birds for a while,then find a patch and do some serious digging over. It really gets rid of frustration x
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Post: # 234886Post Mrs H
Fri Jun 10, 2011 9:16 am

Sending u huge hugs and hoping that yesterday was a better day. Tomorrow is the wkend!!! Hav some u time, chill out and relax. Xxx

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Post: # 234990Post misty44
Sat Jun 11, 2011 6:51 pm

Thank you everyone for your replies and support.

Great day in the garden today and expecting heavy rain tomorrow so couldn't be better.

Misty

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Re: What a day!

Post: # 234996Post Arbor
Sat Jun 11, 2011 7:28 pm

Glad to hear you are feeling chirpier. :icon_smile:

I know what you mean about the rain-I am also looking forward to the rain (never thought I would hear myself say that) and hopefully all the gardens, allotments and fields will get a long overdue watering! :flower:

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