Oh GodI'm 30

A chance to meet up with friends and have a chat - a general space with the freedom to talk about anything.
User avatar
bonniethomas06
A selfsufficientish Regular
A selfsufficientish Regular
Posts: 1245
Joined: Wed Oct 17, 2007 10:24 am
Location: Wiltshire, UK

Oh GodI'm 30

Post: # 244752Post bonniethomas06
Wed Sep 21, 2011 11:57 am

I am stuck between celebrating that I have got to this age, and consoling myself because I have nothing much to show for it!

No assets at all to speak of, not married, no children, no real career to speak of. Haven't invented a cure for cancer, written a bestselling novel or travelled the world.

That said, I am not as shellshocked as I thought. I am actually the happiest and most content I have ever been - my 20's were riddled with insecurities and bad decisions - or rather, no confidence in my decisions - I had quite a lot of fun, but I don't think I am too sorry to see them go.

It got me thinking about advice...I wish I could have gone forward to the future and written a letter of advice to my 20 year old self. I would say:

1. Don't worry so much...it really isn't important and you won't even remember by the time you are 30.
2. Have as much fun as possible and dare to do the unthinkable.
3. Don;'t ever diet - just cut back on food and run three times a week
4. Don't force yourself to make decisions you are not ready for - just enjoy living until you have a burning urge to follow one path or another because it will come one day'
5. He's an idiot - so get the hell out!


What advice would you give your 20 year old self if you could? Or more to the point, your 30 year old self!

Bonnie x
"A pretty face is fine, but what a farmer needs is a woman who can carry a pig under each arm"

My blog...

http://www.theparttimesmallholder.blogspot.com

User avatar
MKG
Site Admin
Site Admin
Posts: 5134
Joined: Fri Mar 07, 2008 5:15 pm
Location: North Notts.

Re: Oh GodI'm 30

Post: # 244758Post MKG
Wed Sep 21, 2011 1:17 pm

Never mind all that ... Happy Birthday, you old tart :lol: :lol:

PS ... Your bum-in-air avatar has already attracted attention, so don't give up on that score :iconbiggrin:

Mike
The secret of life is to aim below the head (With thanks to MMM)

oldfella
A selfsufficientish Regular
A selfsufficientish Regular
Posts: 1237
Joined: Tue Jan 22, 2008 3:31 pm
latitude: 44.564
longitude: 0.959
Location: Lot et Garonne France

Re: Oh GodI'm 30

Post: # 244759Post oldfella
Wed Sep 21, 2011 1:17 pm

No advice, just be "YOU" because, whatever advice you give yourself, tomorrow you will ignore it, when something, or someone, crosses your path, just live your life your way,and take the, knocks, laughs, fun, pain and sorrows, cos at the end of the road you can look back say," That was a hell of ride" the "Good, The Bad, and the Ugly" but it was all "ME"

Oldfella
I can't do great things, so I do little things with love.

User avatar
Green Aura
Site Admin
Site Admin
Posts: 8737
Joined: Thu Feb 07, 2008 8:16 pm
latitude: 58.569279
longitude: -4.762620
Location: North West Highlands

Re: Oh GodI'm 30

Post: # 244760Post Green Aura
Wed Sep 21, 2011 1:32 pm

What they said! :lol:

Happy birthday Bonnie!
Maggie

Never doubt that you can change history. You already have. Marge Piercy

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. Anais Nin

User avatar
red
A selfsufficientish Regular
A selfsufficientish Regular
Posts: 6513
Joined: Sun Jul 30, 2006 7:59 pm
Location: Devon UK
Contact:

Re: Oh GodI'm 30

Post: # 244761Post red
Wed Sep 21, 2011 1:39 pm

happy birthday

and enjoy it!
Red

I like like minded people... a bit like minded anyway.. well people with bits of their minds that are like the bits of my mind that I like...

my website: colour it green

etsy shop

blog

Susie
A selfsufficientish Regular
A selfsufficientish Regular
Posts: 806
Joined: Wed Sep 09, 2009 3:29 pm
Location: Cambridge
Contact:

Re: Oh GodI'm 30

Post: # 244794Post Susie
Wed Sep 21, 2011 3:54 pm

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!! :cheers: :cheers: :cheers: :cheers: :cheers: :occasion4:

And that all sounds like excellent advice to me, I may follow it myself although possibly modifying number 5 a tiny bit ;-).
blog
shop
that's it ;-)

User avatar
southeast-isher
A selfsufficientish Regular
A selfsufficientish Regular
Posts: 1206
Joined: Wed Jul 08, 2009 7:41 pm
Location: Great Britain

Re: Oh GodI'm 30

Post: # 244805Post southeast-isher
Wed Sep 21, 2011 4:03 pm

Happy birthday Bonnie x :oops:

User avatar
baldybloke
Living the good life
Living the good life
Posts: 375
Joined: Sun Mar 06, 2011 12:50 pm
Location: Wiltshire

Re: Oh GodI'm 30

Post: # 244807Post baldybloke
Wed Sep 21, 2011 4:57 pm

Happy Birthday Bonnie.

You have some sensible suggestions there. From someone who is now the wrong side of fifty, I'm struggling to remember my twenties or thirties. I know that I had a lot of fun though. Here are a few of my suggestions:

The only belief worth having is in oneself.
Integrity is everything.
Only dead fish follow the flow. Be an individual.
Change the things you can and accept the things you can't.
Time is the only commodity worth a damn, use it wisely.
Regret nothing, its all part of the learning process.
Has anyone seen the plot, I seem to have lost mine?

User avatar
pelmetman
A selfsufficientish Regular
A selfsufficientish Regular
Posts: 802
Joined: Wed Feb 24, 2010 3:25 pm
Location: Lincolnshire
Contact:

Re: Oh GodI'm 30

Post: # 244809Post pelmetman
Wed Sep 21, 2011 6:06 pm

bonniethomas06 wrote:
That said, I am not as shellshocked as I thought. I am actually the happiest and most content I have ever been - my 20's were riddled with insecurities and bad decisions - or rather, no confidence in my decisions - I had quite a lot of fun, but I don't think I am too sorry to see them go.



What advice would you give your 20 year old self if you could? Or more to the point, your 30 year old self!

Bonnie x
Well I should say you have got it right so far :mrgreen: ..........never planned much myself, just be happy that you can bend over like that :shock: .............as when you get to 53 it takes planning :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Dave :pirate:
Kind Regards
Pelmetman Dave
Pelmetlady Sue
Pelmetdog Troy

User avatar
pelmetman
A selfsufficientish Regular
A selfsufficientish Regular
Posts: 802
Joined: Wed Feb 24, 2010 3:25 pm
Location: Lincolnshire
Contact:

Re: Oh GodI'm 30

Post: # 244810Post pelmetman
Wed Sep 21, 2011 6:10 pm

baldybloke wrote:Happy Birthday Bonnie.

You have some sensible suggestions there. From someone who is now the wrong side of fifty, I'm struggling to remember my twenties or thirties. I know that I had a lot of fun though. Here are a few of my suggestions:

The only belief worth having is in oneself.
Integrity is everything.
Only dead fish follow the flow. Be an individual.
Change the things you can and accept the things you can't.
Time is the only commodity worth a damn, use it wisely.
Regret nothing, its all part of the learning process.
I would ditto everything Baldybloke say's............... :salute:
Kind Regards
Pelmetman Dave
Pelmetlady Sue
Pelmetdog Troy

User avatar
southeast-isher
A selfsufficientish Regular
A selfsufficientish Regular
Posts: 1206
Joined: Wed Jul 08, 2009 7:41 pm
Location: Great Britain

Re: Oh GodI'm 30

Post: # 244814Post southeast-isher
Wed Sep 21, 2011 6:41 pm

pelmetman wrote:just be happy that you can bend over like that :shock: .............as when you get to 53 it takes planning :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Dave :pirate:
:icon_smile: :oops: lol
Last edited by southeast-isher on Wed Sep 21, 2011 7:48 pm, edited 1 time in total.

User avatar
happyhippy
A selfsufficientish Regular
A selfsufficientish Regular
Posts: 662
Joined: Tue Mar 30, 2010 5:28 pm

Re: Oh GodI'm 30

Post: # 244858Post happyhippy
Wed Sep 21, 2011 7:28 pm

Hi and Happy Birthday!I would'nt give myself any advice because I have no regrets! :iconbiggrin: Age is only numbers.I was on the phone the other day to someone who does'nt know me.She had to ask my D.O.B.When I told her,she said "Ohhhh!You don't sound like you're 50!(I am)When I got off the phone,I smiled to myself and wondered what 50 yr olds are supposed to sound like??? :iconbiggrin: Enjoy your life and don't worry about numbers!xxx

indy
Living the good life
Living the good life
Posts: 493
Joined: Sun May 31, 2009 11:21 am
Location: Dorset, England

Re: Oh GodI'm 30

Post: # 244882Post indy
Wed Sep 21, 2011 8:41 pm

Happy Birthday! I had a bit of a freak out when I turned 30 :lol: :oops: was most glad to turn 31 and then bizarrely it all seemed much better. Am also happier than I have ever been so know what you mean :sunny: :sunny:
Sing like nobody's listening, live like there's no tomorrow, dance like nobody's watching and love like you've never been hurt.

User avatar
RuthG
Living the good life
Living the good life
Posts: 241
Joined: Thu Feb 11, 2010 4:50 pm
Location: Durham area UK

Re: Oh GodI'm 30

Post: # 244883Post RuthG
Wed Sep 21, 2011 8:43 pm

Happy Birthday. Dont regret all the things you did or didnt do in your 20s - they have all gone to make you who you are today and that cant be bad.

User avatar
Jessiebean
Living the good life
Living the good life
Posts: 457
Joined: Sun Oct 11, 2009 5:21 am
Location: Launceston Tasmania Australia

Re: Oh GodI'm 30

Post: # 244933Post Jessiebean
Wed Sep 21, 2011 11:02 pm

Yes what all the above said( Iam much older and wiser than you having been 30 for nearly a year now)Don't forget you ditched a career that was making you unhappy and are following your dreams that is very brave and exciting in the scheme of things and I applaud it loudly (not that you need my approavl to live your life!)
PS happy Bday
"Never, never, in nothing great or small, large or petty, never give in except to convictions of honour and good sense.”

my blog: http://thedullroarphilosophy.blogspot.com/

Post Reply