how do I....save/provide even more for my children

The whole reason for the selfsufficientish website was to offer a place where anyone can ask, HOW DO I...? So who knows why it has taken us so long to have a HOW DO I? section, but here it is. So if you want to know how to do anything selfsufficientish then here is the place to ask.
Post Reply
london2london
margo - newbie
margo - newbie
Posts: 3
Joined: Wed Feb 08, 2012 5:40 am

how do I....save/provide even more for my children

Post: # 269674Post london2london »

Hello All:
I joined some time ago and have been lax about getting in here to properly meet you all. (Sorry about that - but the story will explain all :iconbiggrin: )

I have been fortunate to work part time for good money for the past three years - still left me offically below the poverty line but for us gave a really decent standard of living, in our eyes. We had taken the nonmaterlistic route years ago and stuck with it when I started working. We buy second hand, new when it is cheaper than second hand - bartered - traded etc. Due to work didn't get much of a garden last year but aspire to have a kick ass one this coming year. Etc etc

I am now faced with a situation where I am going to have to leave work - I haven't been fired but due to cut throat politics, gossip and back stabbing it has become miserable. I refuse to join in on any terms (I left grade school loooong ago) and as such it seems I am getting the brunt of it. Honestly it is a HUGE silver lining as the job (though I LOVE what I do the people I work with suck) requires tons of unpaid overtime etc. I have given myself 4 months to hang in there - get through our brutal winter and allow me to pay bills 4 months in advance (pay double each month - it will be very tight but a 4 month cushion will give me huge piece of mind.)

So I come to you wise sages to get the BEST money cutting tips out there. I am very flexible - very open minded and will give anything a go once. I am so lucky the kids are too - and thankfully they do not make demands on me for expensive toys, trips, clothing etc. My son is in a wheelchair so anything requiring mountain hikes is out :lol: I am especially in the market for household saving tips (cleaners, foods etc) and also any great websites for the kids (they love science and ecology) - also crafts, how tos. I am putty in your hands folks!

Pumpkin&Piglet
Living the good life
Living the good life
Posts: 315
Joined: Wed Oct 26, 2011 7:56 pm
latitude: 56 degrees North
longitude: 2 degrees West
Location: Near Stroud, Gloucestershire

Re: how do I....save/provide even more for my children

Post: # 269678Post Pumpkin&Piglet »

This is fab for children's activities. I've already done some with my 4 year old and we loved them. I tweaked some for our needs but I'm sure you can work out what you want/don't want!

http://pinterest.com/claire_haslam/free-learning/


I have a green cleaning book where you can make most households cleaners with natural products but generally I find vinegar or bicarbonate of soda is all you really need, although I do use lavender a lot too. You'll be able to find all the recipes online. I've no idea if it's cheaper, I assume so.

I wouldn't be surprised if you already do the green clean thing though. There's a thread on here started by a student I think on how to save money and live on a very tight budget, its got loads of tips on including skipping.

Hope it all goes well :icon_smile:

User avatar
Green Aura
Site Admin
Site Admin
Posts: 9313
Joined: Thu Feb 07, 2008 8:16 pm
latitude: 58.569279
longitude: -4.762620
Location: North West Highlands

Re: how do I....save/provide even more for my children

Post: # 269688Post Green Aura »

I can't offer any specific sites but there are loads of crafts sites that cater for all ages/abilities - the search can be good fun too. I've also put a couple of suggestions on your other thread.
Maggie

Never doubt that you can change history. You already have. Marge Piercy

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. Anais Nin

Skippy
Living the good life
Living the good life
Posts: 493
Joined: Mon Jul 16, 2012 5:13 pm
Location: south staffordshire

Re: how do I....save/provide even more for my children

Post: # 269690Post Skippy »

Maybe worth a look -
https://www.scrapstoresuk.org/


Pete

User avatar
Rosendula
A selfsufficientish Regular
A selfsufficientish Regular
Posts: 1743
Joined: Fri Jun 13, 2008 4:55 pm
Location: East Yorkshire

Re: how do I....save/provide even more for my children

Post: # 269798Post Rosendula »

For us, I think the biggest money saver is the food - growing and making as much as we can for ourselves, visiting the stupormarket as seldom as possible and skipping as many aisles as we can. Home made bread and wine are our major savers :occasion5: . When we had chickens we ate a lot of eggs and now I have to buy them it physically hurts to pay for them :lol: .

Get a pen and some paper and think your way through your house, writing down everything you buy for each and every cupboard in each and every room, then try to think of ways in which you can cut down or do without. It's worth re-visiting the list after a few months as you will come up with new ideas, or at least remember ideas you never got round to putting into practice.
Rosey xx

User avatar
citizentwiglet
A selfsufficientish Regular
A selfsufficientish Regular
Posts: 848
Joined: Fri Jan 04, 2008 3:02 pm
Location: Just outside Glasgow

Re: how do I....save/provide even more for my children

Post: # 269799Post citizentwiglet »

Absolutely the supermarket thing. I haven't grown as much as I'd have liked to recently due to horrific weather, so I've relied on the supermarkets a lot more. I find Aldi and Lidl are less geared towards the cynical marketing the major retailers use. Even so, write a menu, ONLY buy what you need for your weekly menu. Get a feel for the shop so you can write your list in order from walking in the shop. Keep focused, once you've bought the carrots your next stop is toilet roll, so ignore EVERYTHING else until you get to the loo roll. Buy the value versions - T***o Everyday Value Cornflakes, for example, are 31p a box! I don't know if you're a meat eater, but if you are, consider swapping mince for Beanfeast - 90p a packet and makes a lovely lasagne, cottage pie, moussaka...bulk it out with frozen mixed vegetables and maybe a can of kidney beans or some cooked lentils.

Make friends with people who have older children - they will have hand-me-downs. I honestly can't remember the last time I needed to buy my children clothes (apart from shoes and undies) because I have so many friends who have hand-me-downs that they would rather give to me than give to the charity shops. My boys have 4 winter coats each, and have some rather fancy labels - none of which I've bought myself, and all in absolutely smashing condition. People are often embarrassed to ask if you would like such things, so just drop it into conversation that you love getting clothes handed down to you. I must get a huge bag a month of all manner of things - we have just inherited a Ted Baker bodywarmer that I wish fitted me!

As has been mentioned, pinterest is an amazing source of crafty stuff - most link through to full blogs, so be sure to bookmark them or make a list so you can always go back and check.

If your children love science and ecology, the best thing you can do is grow your own. Even with a tiny garden, you can have a lovely herb garden, grow salad leaves and spring onions, potatoes in sacks (not enough for self-sufficiency, but the looks on their faces when they tip out the bag and harvest the spuds is priceless, and home grown spuds are a wonderful treat!). There are container gardening books available, and Freecycle is great for unwanted planters. Even if you don't have a garden, there are lots of things like herbs, salad leaves, cherry tomatoes and peppers that can be grown on sunny windowsills.
I took my dog to play frisbee. She was useless. I think I need a flatter dog.

http://reflectionsinraindrops.wordpress.com - My blog
http://www.bothwellscarecrowfestival.co.uk - Scarecrow Festival
http://bothwellcommunitygarden.wordpress.com - Community Garden

JoseyJo
Barbara Good
Barbara Good
Posts: 117
Joined: Fri Aug 28, 2009 3:03 pm
Location: North Cambs

Re: how do I....save/provide even more for my children

Post: # 269905Post JoseyJo »

If you haven't already discovered it http://www.naturedetectives.org.uk/ (woodland trust) is great. You don't have to join and there are lots of free downloads - spotter's sheets, activity ideas, booklets, puzzles, colouring.
Good art ideas on http://www.deepspacesparkle.com/ and http://www.artprojectsforkids.org/ (some to buy but also some free)

Re. food, we are still trying to reduce the costs but definitely making own bread and cakes/biscuits helps. We've started to buy some flour in bulk to reduce cost further and will try other things in bulk too. I try to stick to market/farmer's market/local farm shops (not the over-priced kind!) for veg/fruit as cheaper AND tastes better. Have also found Lidl fruit and veg quite good - less bland tasting than many supermarkets.

niknik
Living the good life
Living the good life
Posts: 434
Joined: Fri Dec 31, 2010 3:50 pm
Location: Spain

Re: how do I....save/provide even more for my children

Post: # 269908Post niknik »

mainly, for the long term future, instill in them the self -sufficientish ethos. which I´m sure you are already doing!the pressures from contemporaries will make them- most likely- want them to be consumerists, but whatever you can teach them now will be b the best you can for their future

User avatar
Keaniebean
A selfsufficientish Regular
A selfsufficientish Regular
Posts: 605
Joined: Fri May 16, 2008 8:14 am
Location: London

Re: how do I....save/provide even more for my children

Post: # 269914Post Keaniebean »

That's a good point Niknik. Two of my children are very happy to have things passed down, to have charity shop toys or things that other kids wouldn't look twice at. My eldest is a different story however and it makes for some interesting 'debates' :cussing: :cussing: she wants this and she wants that because she sees it as her entitlement. I'm sure she is far better than some of her friends at school who seem to have money to burn, but it's hard.

Like Twiglet said already Pintrest is a great source of things - I live on there for craft ideas, free sewing patterns and free meal ideas.

One of the things I do with my kids is to scour the charity shops for board games or sometimes a DVD or two and then make a 'date' of it. We have popcorn or some sweeties from Lidl or Aldi and just dedicate that time to being with each other. Also don't be frightened to use old books to make new things from too, you can make gift tags, envelopes, cards, garlands, fancy paper aeroplanes or even bowls, baskets from a cut up comic book/magazine and if done with care these things can easily turn into gifts.

I have to say that the 99p shop is quite good too sometimes - although it's getting harder to find a bargain in there too I have found echinacea tincture, eco friendly shampoos, deodorants and lots of crafting stuff in there that I know is £6 or more in other shops. :thumbright:
Sarah.x

Come on over and see the fun at Troll Manor http://trollfamily.blogspot.com/ Now blogging once more :) after a little shove from the one and only MMM.

Crickleymal
Living the good life
Living the good life
Posts: 260
Joined: Wed Aug 17, 2011 1:16 pm
Location: Gloucester

Re: how do I....save/provide even more for my children

Post: # 269916Post Crickleymal »

citizentwiglet wrote:. Even so, write a menu, ONLY buy what you need for your weekly menu.
This. Valuable advice.
Malc

High in the sky, what do you see ?
Come down to Earth, a cup of tea
Flying saucer, flying teacup
From outer space, Flying Teapot

User avatar
boboff
A selfsufficientish Regular
A selfsufficientish Regular
Posts: 1809
Joined: Mon Jun 08, 2009 9:29 am
Location: Gunnislake,Cornwall

Re: how do I....save/provide even more for my children

Post: # 269917Post boboff »

You can tell the people doing this, like me, as we always have to go round twice, once to get the bulk of the list, and then the dash back round in reverse to pick up the Puree, wraps and Leeks!
Millymollymandy wrote:Bloody smilies, always being used. I hate them and they should be banned.
No I won't use a smiley because I've decided to turn into Boboff, as he's turned all nice all of a sudden. Grumble grumble.
http://boboffs.blogspot.co.uk/

Post Reply