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hmmm..i find a lot of that debatable.

I wasn't cuddled for a month - i was in an incubator, and then mum got chickenpox. I don't have a problem with physical contact. I am closer to my dad (the first to touch me - apparently i hung on and wouldn't let go!) but i have issues with people who blame later in life problems on 'traumatic birth'. I've debated with a great number of people on it as well - especially those who blame antibiotic allergies on being pumped full of them at birth.

I'm not having a pop at you though...just so you know that!! Its the psychological thing in general and the blame culture we seem to be living in.

Halfway through my labour the midwife (lovely chap named Paul) and I were having a discussion about how consumption of it can really encourage hormones which aid in relaxation and well being, thus helping with PND, breastfeeding letdown (which I have been told is also canablistic!), and the contraction of the womb after birth.

We found recipes for pizza, bolognaise, pate, sausage, shepherds pie and all sorts.......


Sarah (whose placenta was sooooo amazing they asked if they could keep it to use as a teaching point! *sigh* Fame at last!)

the.fee.fairy wrote:hmmm..i find a lot of that debatable.

I wasn't cuddled for a month - i was in an incubator, and then mum got chickenpox. I don't have a problem with physical contact. I am closer to my dad (the first to touch me - apparently i hung on and wouldn't let go!) but i have issues with people who blame later in life problems on 'traumatic birth'. I've debated with a great number of people on it as well - especially those who blame antibiotic allergies on being pumped full of them at birth.

I'm not having a pop at you though...just so you know that!! Its the psychological thing in general and the blame culture we seem to be living in.

Debate makes us all more knowledgeable, I embrace it.

My sister also has a physical contact problem, she was also early (and the survivor of twins) she was in hospital for 3 months ( I don't know how long she was actually in an incubator) It is possible that your parents were more physical with you when you were tiny - My mother is very distant and always has been, my friends mother is the same.

You are lucky that you are intelligent enough to understand and appriciate being as well balanced as you are. I certainly blame alot of my and those of my siblings, inner problems (phsycological is perhaps a little strong) on the way that we were raised. Maybe I am not willing to accept that it is my fault that I am a weidro

Anyways, each to their own

I swear my daughter "imprinted" like baby birds do onto her daddy and grandpa harry (have to clarify: she has 3 grandads). They had the majority of her care when she was first born because i was very ill after her birth.

She often has a major case of "iwantdaddyitis" and although she is a very loving and cuddly toddler, she's far more into my hubby james than she is me.
she's the same with "grampy" as we call him. she gets so excited to see him.

I'm sure there's something in it.