So Leah comes to mine today for a sleepover while the lovebirds go off to the cinema & whatever, & Leah starts to ask me questions about her real dad.... hmm.... now, she doesn't know his name, Gail hasn't told her, she's never seen a photo, Gail hasn't kept any, but I have one on the PC.
Her dad did a runner when Gail was 7 months pregnant - he knew when she was due to be born, he knew our phone number, emails etc.... no word from him at all - we think he went back home maybe, he's australian.
So Leah wants answers & said that she won't be asking Gail... and I quote now....
'because I tried that before Nanny, & she just gets SO cross. So when I'm 8, I'm going to ask you again & then I will be old enough & you will have to tell me, because you're my nanny and I trust you. And I know you love me, so I know you will tell me the truth.
But we won't tell mummy, we'll keep it a secret, then she won't get cross, ok?'
Now the problem I have is this... if she's old enough at 6 to work out that it's a major problem with Gail & that although I tell her THE most outrageous fibs at times, the important stuff has always been met with honest & straightforward answers, is she old enough to know about her dad now? And really, shouldn't it be Gail who is telling her?
I feel a bit out on a limb, because she deserves to know about her dad, but if I tell her, Gail will throw a blue fit. If Gail tells her, it will be full of venom & might put Leah off turning to Gail for answers in the future.
All I did say today was the truth, that I couldn't talk to her about her dad because her mum has told me not to, & that really she should asking her mum. I did tell her that if she still doesn't know when she's a bit older then yes, I WILL talk to her about it, but we have to be honest with Gail first.
So.... was I sensible, or have I just fobbed her off? I'm feeling a bit confused now
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