neeed some advice

[Russian Doll]

okay i cant post this on my usual forum as its about the girls sperm doner and he trolls on there spying on me

basically he hasnt given me any money for two months,,he oly gives me 100 a month for the two girls and as mrs f will clarify that took a lot of work to get that

he says he isnt working ,,but my girls said today daddy is working mummy

i dont know what to think

if i go to the csa it could take forever as lets be honest the csa suck but i cant afford to leave it..hes not talking to me about it and im stuck..a hundred pounds a month down is a small fortune to me

any advice

[red]

I cannot offer any advice sorry.
sorry to hear its a difficult situation


but do be aware that just about anyone could be reading here too.

[Shirley]

I second what Red said.... especially if you are using the same username on here as you are on the other forums.. or if it's a username that he would know... it's easy to google a username!

[Russian Doll]

I cannot offer any advice sorry.
sorry to hear its a difficult situation


but do be aware that just about anyone could be reading here too.

luckily he doesnt realise gogle exists lol...h only knows about the other forum cause the girls mentioned mummy goes on there...this forum is safe thank god

[baldowrie]

the CSA yes..wonderful system

If you believe him to be working you need to get proof and present that to the CSA. Only then will they think about looking into the matter. But knowing they work and proving it are two entirely different things. Believe me I know

In the meantime make sure that you have applied for other benefits like council tax benefit etc.

Personally I think if an absent parent won't pay what they should for their children's up keep (lie about income) it just shows how much they really care about them...zilch!

[Milims]

I tried to reply - but thought better of it - think I ought to PM you! Again!

[Thomzo]

Take a Break magazine have a name and shame section. You could think about it! Maybe it would shame him into paying up.

Zoe

[Milims]

Sadly that may not work - my x was £1700 in debt for his CSA payments and the Judge let him off!

[Karen_D]

If he says he isn't working then presumably he's claiming benefits. They'll jump on him a lot faster than the CSA if you can find out where and doing what.

[Russian Doll]

If he says he isn't working then presumably he's claiming benefits. They'll jump on him a lot faster than the CSA if you can find out where and doing what.

no hes not claiming benifits hes living of his girlfriend apparantly

[old tree man]

I am sorry to see that your "x" isn't helping out like a real man should jane and i brought up 7 children together and at times it was REAL tough so to do it alone and on a ridiculous budget is shameful, maybe you should put up posters of him in your local area say what a spineless mouse he is allowing you to stuggle so.

I hope you get sorted real soon

All the best
Russ

[glenniedragon]

I'd vote for CSA, may be a nightmare of paperwork and the like but at least there's a third party for him to 'blame' rather than you- he'd make the payments at source rather than at his convienence (if he's earning that is) if he's not earning so he doesn't have to support the girls well, words fail me. Good luck, hope it manages to stay amicable.

kind thoughts
Deb

[Russian Doll]

well after a long think and a major reshuffling of my finances again lol...ew can just about make it without his money..

the way we have decided to look at it is

if he is happy in the knowledge that another bloke, My hubby and the boys dad, is payiong for the upkeep of his kids then so be it

[mrsflibble]

deny access until you get cash. i know it's unfair to the girls, but he's being unfair to them too.

[Russian Doll]

deny access until you get cash. i know it's unfair to the girls, but he's being unfair to them too.

that would never happen hun at the end of the day that would break my girls hearts..and for the sake of money i am not willing to do that